WHY DO PARENTS NOT LISTEN TO THEIR KIDS, IN LOVE / MARRIAGE ISSUES? AFTER-ALL IT IS A QUESTION OF THEIR FULL LIFE ??
It is very easily said by the parents that " I see the world more than you, I am your dad/mom we know more". I accept their words but without talking and meeting how do parents know that this is right or this is wrong ???
In the intricate dance of love and relationships, the role of parents can often be a significant factor in shaping the decisions and outcomes of our children.
However, when it comes to matters of the heart, such as love and marriage, parents sometimes struggle to truly listen and understand their kids' perspectives of marriage? After all, these decisions have a profound impact on the course of their children's lives.
Never listen: I notice lots of parents never listen to their kids and always stick their decisions on kids without listening to them.
Parents think that they know everything but they do not know the future and when a decision becomes wrong, till that time it's very late and their kid's life becomes hell and then they blame their decision. But if they are listening at least once listen their kids this situation will never come.
Generation Gap This is not correct to use this word about parents that their EGO comes. But it's true, most of the Parents think that how their kids say no to them?
Hence, the situation gets worse day by day and only to satisfy their EGO they reject that Boy/Girl without meeting and create a mindset that their kid's choice is wrong.
Generation Gap Shows are coming on TV, these TV shows help to understand our kids and their mental status by watching other Generation Gap Game Shows and Parents and kids' communications shows.
Social Prestige: It's the biggest reason that all parents say NO to their kids. What people say in society, what about their Social Prestige, etc.
Parents forget that it's a question of a full life, only their kid and his/her partner live together. and no one comes to ask about their kids from society.
Poor Conversation with Kids: On the love and marriage issue most parents avoid conversations with their kids. They do not accept to talk on this issue they forget about their kid's life and only in their mind that what they do is correct only?
Communication also plays a crucial role in the Parent-child relationship, especially when it comes to sensitive topics like love and marriage of their kids. As a parent, it may find it difficult to listen to their kids due to a lack of open and honest dialogue.
Fear of judgment, rejection, or disappointment can hinder effective communication, leading to a breakdown in understanding between parents and their kids.
Sometimes it may create a large argument between the family and we face ups and downs and never reach on a decision.
I did not say that parents are wrong every time, and kids are always correct. But this happens to almost every family and the destruction of life starts. Kids go with their parents accept all the decisions and start adjusting to full lives.
The pain of not getting their love is always in the heart and too much anger and irritation has come and thus, its result is fighting, arguing, etc.
One of the key reasons behind parents not listening to their kids in love and marriage issues can be attributed to the generation gap.
Parents and children often come from different ears with varying beliefs, values, and experiences. This disconnect can lead to misunderstanding and miscommunication, making it challenging for parents to empathize with their children's viewpoints.
After all this, problems start and result - divorce, separation, mental illness, depression, and sometimes suicide attempts. Then parents cry and say that they did not want all this, they never think this happened, we do all for the betterment of children.
Moreover, parents may have their own preconceived notions and expectations of parents when it comes to love and marriage. These expectations are often rooted in our cultural norms, social pressures, and personal experiences. As a result, parents may struggle to see beyond their own perspectives and understand the unique dynamic of their children's relationships and be afraid about the future of their loving kids'.
Furthermore, parents may feel a sense of protectiveness over their children, wanting to shield them from potential heartbreak or disappointment. The protective instinct can sometimes manifest as resistance to our Children's choice in the case of love and marriage, as parents we may believe they know what's best for their children's well-being and try to secure their future.
Despite these challenges, it is very important for parents to listen to their kids, especially in the case of love and marriage-related topics. By fostering open communication, empathy, and understanding as parents we can provide valuable support and guidance to our kids as they navigate the complexities of relationships. It is essential for parents to acknowledge that their children's happiness and fulfillment are at stake and that their perspectives and choices deserve to be heard and respected.
In the last, I only said it always be better to listen to kids and kids also try to talk to their parents and convince them because our parents do all for our betterment so a good conversation makes everyone's life better. Bridging the gap between parents and kids in matters of love and marriage requires patience, empathy, and willingness to listen and understand.
By recognizing the impact on their children's lives and fostering a supportive and communicative atmosphere, parents can play a vital role in guiding our kids toward fulfillment and meaningful relationships.
After all, love and marriage are not just about the present movement but shape the course of their children's full lives.
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